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Bullish Q&A: Freelance Rights, and How to Negotiate a Contract
About Those “Friends” Who Keep Trying to Sell You Goddamn Nail Wraps
I Worked for a Guy Like Mike Pence. It Was … As Expected.
Bullish Q&A: Want To Do ALL THE THINGS? Focus By Defining Your Endgame.
Bullish Q&A: Help! I’m About to Get Fired But I Want to Stay
#ICYMI Bullish: Three Career F*ckups I Made So You Don’t Have To
The Infuriating Truth About Why Some Women Project Their Problems on Other Women Who Are In Fact Living Their Lives Totally Functionally
I Want to See a Gender-Swapped Version of Every Movie. Literally Every One.
Bullish Q&A: On Moving Out of Support Roles, Coworkers with Terrible Politics, and Finally Getting Serious in Life
Bullish Q&A: How Can I Defend Feminist Ideas If I’m Terrible at Arguing?
Bullish Q&A: Should I Step Up My Wardrobe to Succeed at Work?
Advice Mega-Column, Part I: Side Hustles for Academics, Face-Blindness, Your “Friends” Who Keep Trying to Sell You Nail Wraps
Bullish Q&A: Stay Motivated When a Gentlewomanly Life Seems Far Away
Bullish Q&A: How Do I Get Bullish With My New Biz While My Partner Pays the Bills?
Bullish Q&A: How Should You Decide Whether to Have Kids? (And How to Tell Your Relatives to BACK THE F OFF)
Bullish Q&A: The Bullish Guide To A Quarter Life Crisis
Genderqueer in the Office? A Few Thoughts on Building a Career
Bullish Q&A: Is It Too Late To Bullishly Plan For A Baby?
Bullish Q&A: Should I Do My Own Taxes?
Bullish Q&A: How Do I Stay Motivated When I Feel Behind With Life?
Bullish Q&A: How to Get Bullish About Moving to a New City
Bullish Q&A: Pay Off Debt Bullishly
Bullish Q&A: I Keep Interviewing for Jobs I Don’t Really Want
New Books of Feminist Interest, by Friends of Bullish (and Thoughts on Moving to New York)
How to Be So “Productive” That You Hate Life and Everyone Hates You
A friend recently told me that a mutual acquaintance of ours is in massive debt, despite having a good job. (Dude buys a lot of things that go zoom.) When questioned about his debt, he ultimately said something quite self-aware: “It’s just that I resent my future self depriving my present self of pleasure. Why should that guy have all…
The idiom for a person who acts alone is “lone wolf.” (Lone Wolf was also a Kiowa chief, and Lone Wolf McQuade was a character played by Chuck Norris in the 1983 film of the same name.) I started thinking about lone wolves when a friend told me her hiring problem. She posted a job listing for a fundraiser –…
Fashion Week has come to an end, and we in New York will soon no longer be subjected to ads about “Mercedes Benz Fashion Week’s” official fiber snack bar (Fiber One) and diet soda (Pepsi). Hey, in 2005, Fashion Week had an official toilet. (Do any companies out there want to provide Bullish’s “official espresso” and “official post-Bullish wheat beer”?…
A few years ago, I struck up an online friendship with Wendy Shalit, author of A Return to Modesty, the book that Jessica Valenti of Feministing was at least in part responding to with The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women. Wendy and I traded several long, thoughtful emails about issues we agreed and disagreed…
I have walked in some fashion shows. Certainly not in Fashion Week, or even on what I would call a real runway. I think the history of my downmarket-catwalk modeling career (2004-2006, RIP) went like this: •Two or three fashion shows for a now-defunct vintage lingerie store in Williamsburg. It’s not that hard to hold a fashion show in a…
This recruiting season, an NYU student wrote a “laughable” cover letter for J.P. Morgan. According to Yahoo! Finance: Since Thursday, February 2, when a Bank of America Merrill Lynch director forwarded the cover letter out to his entire team, offering drinks “to the first analyst to concisely summarize everything that is wrong with” the note, it has passed through more…
This week, let’s hear from a reader I’ll call Vanessa Williams, after the former Miss America (1984) whose mistakes (nudie pics!) actually worked out pretty damn well in the end. I loved your advice about motivating yourself (using base emotions like disgust). Do you have any advice like this for overcoming perfectionism? I’ve been to counseling and have a good…
If you grow up being told that you can achieve anything you set your mind to, and that girls can be President and go to the moon, it kind of leaves you a little paralyzed by all options, doesn’t it? Or even guilty that you’re not an astronaut. (Or better: PRESIDENT ASTRONAUT!) Let’s hear today from a reader who dubbed…
Last week, I wrote about How to Hold a Ladies’ Working Brunch (For The Ambitious Yet Leisurely!) Then, this Sunday, I held another working brunch at my place on Wall Street, during which I wrote a short paper for my masters program, and then organized all my receipts for my taxes, and then drank half a bottle of champagne. My…
Last week’s column, Bullish: Fund Your Business Or Get Started Investing In Startups, Part I, covered angel investing, microinvesting, and the evergreen topic of what being a lady has to do with it. This week, we’ll discuss more ways to fund your startup or small business, and more ways that you can invest without being a millionaire (or even…