Bullish: Career Killers You Might Not Know Are Killing You

Back when I ran a company, I regularly neglected to respond to anyone whose cover letter began “Dear Sir.” In fact, I did so with glee. Like this: Look at this! Dear Sir! Oh wait, where’s my penis? I do not have one, because I am a lady. It’s not sexist or anything to assume that I am a Sir…

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Bullish: The Nerdy, Reflective Person’s Guide To Networking

I recently began reading the classic networking manual Never Eat Alone. I’m just not that into it. To an introvert, saying Never Eat Alone is like saying Never Go to the Bathroom Alone. The book begins with author Keith Ferazzi’s life story. He came from a modest background, and I appreciated his insights on how to infiltrate the upper classes…

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Bullish: Teamwork Is Overrated (How To Be A Lone Unicorn)

The idiom for a person who acts alone is “lone wolf.” (Lone Wolf was also a Kiowa chief, and Lone Wolf McQuade was a character played by Chuck Norris in the 1983 film of the same name.) I started thinking about lone wolves when a friend told me her hiring problem. She posted a job listing for a fundraiser –…

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Bullish: What I Learned About Business from Being a Low-Rent Model

Fashion Week has come to an end, and we in New York will soon no longer be subjected to ads about “Mercedes Benz Fashion Week’s” official fiber snack bar (Fiber One) and diet soda (Pepsi). Hey, in 2005, Fashion Week had an official toilet. (Do any companies out there want to provide Bullish’s “official espresso” and “official post-Bullish wheat beer”?…

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How To Hold A DIY Fashion Show (Even In A Church!)

A few years ago, I struck up an online friendship with Wendy Shalit, author of A Return to Modesty, the book that Jessica Valenti of Feministing was at least in part responding to with The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women. Wendy and I traded several long, thoughtful emails about issues we agreed and disagreed…

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Bullish: The Resume Wall Street Is Laughing At, And What We Can Learn From It

This recruiting season, an NYU student wrote a “laughable” cover letter for J.P. Morgan. According to Yahoo! Finance: Since Thursday, February 2, when a Bank of America Merrill Lynch director forwarded the cover letter out to his entire team, offering drinks “to the first analyst to concisely summarize everything that is wrong with” the note, it has passed through more…

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Bullish Life: Overcoming Perfectionism (and Still Being a Special Unicorn)

This week, let’s hear from a reader I’ll call Vanessa Williams, after the former Miss America (1984) whose mistakes (nudie pics!) actually worked out pretty damn well in the end. I loved your advice about motivating yourself (using base emotions like disgust). Do you have any advice like this for overcoming perfectionism? I’ve been to counseling and have a good…

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