Bullish Life: Some Dreams Are Stupid

“Following your dreams” seems to be the current American religion. (See posts by other authors on TheGloss: My Sister Gave Up Her Dreams, and Sometimes I Hate Her For It, and I Gave Up My Dream, and I’d Do It Again.) What the fuck are “dreams,” anyway? And why are they so sacred in our culture, while “goals” — like…

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About Haley

Hi! I’m Haley, Jen’s virtual assistant. I’ve been working for her since March 2012, but I’ve been a Bullish reader for several years. I found Bullish by chance – I came across Maybe Work-Life Balance Means You Should Work MORE and felt like it had been written especially for me. I had just left a dead-end admin job at a…

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Bullish: Three Tips for Pitching Your Dream Gig (And Why You Need To Pitch)

When I was a kid, I remember being outraged at the introduction of Double-Stuf Oreos (yes, that’s really how the product name is spelled). Why was I full of rage? Because I was sure I had invented Double-Stuf Oreos myself. I mean, I had been disassembling Oreos, halfheartedly eating the excess black cookie parts, and gloriously reassembling one massive dual-creme…

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Bullish Life: Should You Slow Down Your Career for a Guy?

  I anonymized a few details from this writer’s letter, but not many, because a lot of this email is about horses. What am I supposed to say — the writer is training llamas? Mastodons? Groundhogs? You cannot ride a groundhog. Dear Jen, I’m 23, I work as a contractor, and I have a boyfriend and — oh man — two…

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Bullish: How Negotiating A Raise Is Like Dating

One of the first Bullish columns I ever wrote was Bullish: How Business is Like Dating. As I’ve been plowing through reader questions in response to Bullish: How to Ask for More Money, Part I and Part II, I felt like I was writing “Bullish: How Asking For Money is Like Lots of Stuff About Boys.” I tried to refine…

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Bullish Life: Terrified of Life After College? Read This.

Dear Jen, Please help me. I am very nearly twenty-one years old, and very nearly at the end of my undergraduate degree. Within the next month, I will have completed my exams and all but cast fate to the wind; within two months I will know the results and forever be on my merry way. The outcome is not the…

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Bullish: How To Ask for More Money, Q&A

Over the last two weeks, I’ve been writing about asking for more money, and arguing that even if you think you don’t care about money, you should. People say that no one on their deathbed regrets not working more. Actually, plenty of people are on their deathbed worrying about how their family is going to keep the house once they’re…

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Bullish: How To Ask for More Money, Part II

I want to start by saying that, even if you don’t care about money, you should care about money. If it felt a little dirty or weird for you to even click on the link to read an article about asking for more money, I really want you to get over that. I’m convinced that many fewer men than women…

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Bullish Life: Online Dating Tips From Professionals and Happy People

Three weeks ago, I wrote Bullish Life: I’m Engaged! What I Learned From Twenty Years of Dating, followed by Bullish Life: How I Met My (Soon-to-Be) Husband On OKCupid. I’ve since turned all my attention to baking and having wedding invitations printed on organic hemp paper folded by Japanese children. No, not really. Actually, my kick-ass assistant just helped me…

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