Careers :: Feminism :: Essays
Bullish Q&A: Freelance Rights, and How to Negotiate a Contract
About Those “Friends” Who Keep Trying to Sell You Goddamn Nail Wraps
I Worked for a Guy Like Mike Pence. It Was … As Expected.
Bullish Q&A: Want To Do ALL THE THINGS? Focus By Defining Your Endgame.
Bullish Q&A: Help! I’m About to Get Fired But I Want to Stay
#ICYMI Bullish: Three Career F*ckups I Made So You Don’t Have To
The Infuriating Truth About Why Some Women Project Their Problems on Other Women Who Are In Fact Living Their Lives Totally Functionally
I Want to See a Gender-Swapped Version of Every Movie. Literally Every One.
Bullish Q&A: On Moving Out of Support Roles, Coworkers with Terrible Politics, and Finally Getting Serious in Life
Bullish Q&A: How Can I Defend Feminist Ideas If I’m Terrible at Arguing?
Bullish Q&A: Should I Step Up My Wardrobe to Succeed at Work?
Advice Mega-Column, Part I: Side Hustles for Academics, Face-Blindness, Your “Friends” Who Keep Trying to Sell You Nail Wraps
Bullish Q&A: Stay Motivated When a Gentlewomanly Life Seems Far Away
Bullish Q&A: How Do I Get Bullish With My New Biz While My Partner Pays the Bills?
Bullish Q&A: How Should You Decide Whether to Have Kids? (And How to Tell Your Relatives to BACK THE F OFF)
Bullish Q&A: The Bullish Guide To A Quarter Life Crisis
Genderqueer in the Office? A Few Thoughts on Building a Career
Bullish Q&A: Is It Too Late To Bullishly Plan For A Baby?
Bullish Q&A: Should I Do My Own Taxes?
Bullish Q&A: How Do I Stay Motivated When I Feel Behind With Life?
Bullish Q&A: How to Get Bullish About Moving to a New City
Bullish Q&A: Pay Off Debt Bullishly
Bullish Q&A: I Keep Interviewing for Jobs I Don’t Really Want
New Books of Feminist Interest, by Friends of Bullish (and Thoughts on Moving to New York)
How to Be So “Productive” That You Hate Life and Everyone Hates You
Internships are frustrating for everyone. When you’re applying for internships, it can be demoralizing to find out that no one wants your labor even for free. Even though – unless you have rich parents – you will very possibly have to work some second, paying job (folding jeans at the mall!) in addition just in order to be able to…
I got into a Facebook scuffle the other day, and – amazingly – left feeling that my time was well-spent! Basically, in the comments below a post, a man called a woman “shrill.” She called him out for his “coded attack.” I agreed. “Shrill” is like saying, “Your comments keep coming out in this high-pitched voice and therefore are invalid.…
Musician Kim Boekbinder made news last June when, in response to a show she played for 18 people – netting exactly $12.50, which she spent on whiskey – she announced her new business model: The problem, as I see it, is that we’re living in THE FUTURE (cue theremin!) with ease of communication, downloadable gratification, large networks, and constant information…
In early 2010, I was writing weekly articles for TheGloss about beauty, skin care, and lady-inventions to solve lady-problems. Also, somewhere in the deep recesses of the box in which I keep my old to-do lists was a napkin I scribbled on on an airplane: notes for a book entitled, “How to Make Money Without Becoming a Republican.” I had…
I know that a lot of us like to pretend to be too cool for mainstream things – for instance, I took a good swipe at Coors Light recently – but it’s hard to deny that Friends was a pretty good show. I remember seeing the episode, “The One with the Bullies” (Googling “Friends Ross hat bully” totally worked), in…
Did you start finding birthdays rather disappointing once you left for college? All the sudden, having your birthday recognized was not a childhood entitlement but rather a popularity contest. As a grownup, if you’re not dating someone, you’re probably planning your own birthday. If you don’t plan, your friends find out about your birthday on Facebook, at which point they…
I’ve been thinking a lot about institutions – those who can’t function without them, and those who can’t fit into them. Two things converged for me this past week: I’m working through a training program in executive coaching and considering the difficulties of coaching my clients to function better within large organizations, especially in cases where the clients may not…
Back when I ran a company, I regularly neglected to respond to anyone whose cover letter began “Dear Sir.” In fact, I did so with glee. Like this: Look at this! Dear Sir! Oh wait, where’s my penis? I do not have one, because I am a lady. It’s not sexist or anything to assume that I am a Sir…
I have this fantasy wherein I am a sex educator who goes around to high schools. Not the condom-on-a-banana kind of sex educator (although the kids need that, too). No, I go around teaching a sexual ethics class that, amazingly, liberal parents, Orthodox parents, Muslim parents, and everyone else is fine with. How would that be possible? Well, anytime you…
I recently began reading the classic networking manual Never Eat Alone. I’m just not that into it. To an introvert, saying Never Eat Alone is like saying Never Go to the Bathroom Alone. The book begins with author Keith Ferazzi’s life story. He came from a modest background, and I appreciated his insights on how to infiltrate the upper classes…