These days, I mostly feel like a pretty badass ladyboss. But it wasn’t a straightforward path to get there. In fact, I declared bankruptcy after the failure of the company I started as an undergrad. After that, I moved to New York, lived in a series of sketchy little rooms-for-rent, and dissipated my efforts on dozens of random-seeming projects, gigs, and…
I am a recent college grad with a lot of strong, liberal beliefs, but I struggle a lot with articulating my thoughts out loud. This proves a problem when I come into contact with people outside of the liberal college bubble (i.e. all the time). Even though I know deep-down that X is correct and that there are statistics and…
OH NO! For the last year-plus, a Contact form on our website was not functioning properly. Instead of sending your questions to me, your questions were being stored in a database. We finally figured this out, and discovered a TREASURE TROVE of burning questions! I can’t answer them all, but I can certainly dive in. Enjoy! Jen! I…
Hi Jen, Your advice (here and here) on dealing with workplace sexism has also been useful for dealing with cissexism and transphobia – I was wondering if you’d consider throwing out some specific advice for people who don’t fit the gender binary? The majority of problems I’ve found: – Not being hired in the first place. If it’s a case…
Jen! My family does not approve of my fiancé; he is a Muslim and doesn’t have the same educational pedigree that my Asian family expects. None have even met him. Some have resorted to childish antics (ranging from stealing money from me, in an attempt to bribe me to end things with him), to “banning” me/us from T-giving, Xmas, even…
Hi Jen I am a 26 year old girl and I live with 2 of my best friends. 98% of the time it’s amazing, I love having them around, the dynamic is so warm and open. We’re a pretty generous household I.e. If you eat some of my pasta I couldn’t really give a fuck. However money has become somewhat of an…
Not a career Q but I would like to know what a bullish gentlewoman might do. My ex owes me $2k from when he quit his job and I paid for his expenses while he didn’t work (he may have been depressed at the time). We broke up over a year ago and he’s repeatedly accused me of cheating on…
I work in a shop where the owner schedules shifts a month in advance but will often change them last minute w/o any warning or notice. (And the schedule is a handwritten calendar above her desk.) I’m increasingly frustrated that I can’t reliably plan my life around work. But everyone I speak to gives me a “*shrug* hey, whatever pays…
It has become increasingly obvious that my new boss is not great at his job. He is disorganised, lacks motivation and he gives out inaccurate information to colleagues and customers. How do I deal? I really enjoyed this job until he started and the rest of the team don’t seem happy either. Sure. You’re going to have to manage…
Dear Jen, First of all, I’d like to thank you for the Bullish articles, they are so insightful, honest, and truly inspirational. My problem is that I am scared of almost everything. Somehow I manage to do the basic things, such as going to classes, but I can’t stop worrying. It’s fucking exhausting. I don’t want my life reduced to…
