Genderqueer in the Office? A Few Thoughts on Building a Career

Hi Jen, Your advice (here and here) on dealing with workplace sexism has also been useful for dealing with cissexism and transphobia – I was wondering if you’d consider throwing out some specific advice for people who don’t fit the gender binary? The majority of problems I’ve found: – Not being hired in the first place. If it’s a case…

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Bullish Q&A: What to Do About Your Racist Family

Jen! My family does not approve of my fiancé; he is a Muslim and doesn’t have the same educational pedigree that my Asian family expects. None have even met him. Some have resorted to childish antics (ranging from stealing money from me, in an attempt to bribe me to end things with him), to “banning” me/us from T-giving, Xmas, even…

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Bullish Q&A: Incompetent Boss? Opportunity for You!

It has become increasingly obvious that my new boss is not great at his job. He is disorganised, lacks motivation and he gives out inaccurate information to colleagues and customers. How do I deal? I really enjoyed this job until he started and the rest of the team don’t seem happy either.   Sure. You’re going to have to manage…

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Bullish Q&A: “My problem is that I am scared of almost everything”

Dear Jen, First of all, I’d like to thank you for the Bullish articles, they are so insightful, honest, and truly inspirational. My problem is that I am scared of almost everything. Somehow I manage to do the basic things, such as going to classes, but I can’t stop worrying. It’s fucking exhausting. I don’t want my life reduced to…

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Bullish Q&A: How do I pull myself out of this godforsaken hole?

I’m nearly 26 years old, still living at home with my dad. I spent a few semesters at college, but never even finished an associates degree. I’m currently working a slightly above minimum wage job, behind a coffee and juice bar at a grocery store. I’m tired of busting my ass, and having nothing to show for it. I’m tired…

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Bullish Q&A: How Can You Get a Mean Boss to Like You?

After 10+ years into my career, I have finally nailed my dream job: account executive at a huge, prestigious advertising agency (I pitched the hell out of it! I negotiated my salary! So proud!). The key reasons why I got hired are my interpersonal skills: I figured that diplomacy and great relationship management are essential in handling advertising professionals’ egos,…

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Best of Bullish: 2013 Roundup and Reading List

It’s been a year! I wrote fifty or so Bullish columns, some of which I have no memory of writing but am pleasantly surprised to discover that I did! We had a Bullish Conference! There were Bullish Mad Libs! (You can save your spot for the 2014 conference here!) Here is a handily-categorized directory of the past year in bullishness:…

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